Some people really piss me off. So many abused women whine and complain that no one helps them, and while it’s sad that those that truly want help don’t always get it, what about those we DO help just to get shit on for it? Sometimes people DO try to help. Sometimes they threaten the perps hoping it’ll scare them off. Sometimes they call the cops. Sometimes they offer to take the woman in. But what do they get for it? They get treated as if THEY’RE the criminals for trying to intervene.

Just like some people have bashed me for things they clearly cannot relate to and that they clearly don’t know what the hell they’re talking about, I’m not going to sit here and say I’m an expert on these things, cuz I’m not. Far from it. I’ve never been in an abusive relationship. As an adult (before meeting Tom) I’d fight back and then dump abusive people, though I was never with anyone that actually harmed me. Still, I wouldn’t have stuck around and taken it and then defended them when someone else let them have it or tried to help.

I’ve had my own share of low self-esteem in the past but I understand that my situation was very different. It’s not that I don’t empathize with these women, and I’m not saying we should throw our hands up in frustration and say, “Fuck it! Let them get their asses beat if they’re not going to allow anyone to help them,” but I can see where they might frustrate the hell out of some people. It’s bad enough to see them stay with their abusers, but when they say they do it for the kids it burns me up even more. How can staying with an abusive person be good for your kids??? Even if the guy treats them well, they witness the abuse the woman goes through, they sense her fear and tension, and I don’t see how that can be doing the kids any good. I can see where it’s not always easy to pull up stakes and split, especially with kids, but must it really take some women decades to figure it out???